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8 Reasons We Should Know Our Values, Worth, and Purpose

A lot of my coaching work involves working with people to figure out what their deepest held values are, and what they consider important in life. It is often surprising that many people have no idea what their values are. And that included me too for a long long time. If I introspect, I realize that I had never thought of my values before I...

5 Steps To Deploy Yourself And Live An Authentic Life

A lot of us, especially in our youthful days, struggle with how to deploy ourselves in the world. Instead of being true to ourselves and charting our own unique course, we tend to follow paths that others have decided on our behalf. However, if we take the long-term view, taking the path less traveled and Deploying Ourselves can make all the...

7 Essential Work Skills For The Future – The 2020s And 2030s

Do you remember a time when you couldn’t ‘Google’ something? Or had to rely on a piece of paper to find your way to a location? Or when ‘social networking’ just meant meeting up with people in real life? Our world is changing fast, with new technologies and ways of doing business. So much has changed since 2000 - and the next 20 years will be no...

How to Train, Grow, and Manage Your Middle-Level Leaders and Managers?

Middle management is usually the weakest link in the chain of every organization. A study that gathered data from the most unengaged employees found that middle-level managers form the biggest bulk of the bottom five percent. The results are startling, considering they play a key role crucial to the company's success. They have a direct impact on...

Know What Great Managers Do? A List of 8 Expectations From Managers That Employees Have.

According to research by Gallup, the most common reason why people leave their jobs is bad managers and bosses. The study, which questioned more than one million working Americans, revealed that 75% of workers who left their jobs did so because of their managers and not necessarily the position itself. No matter how many perks a position offers,...

9 High Leverage Skills We Should All Learn (And Why Aren’t We Teaching Them Already?)

“It's not only children who grow. Parents do too. As much as we watch to see what our children do with their lives, they are watching us to see what we do with ours. I can't tell my children to reach for the sun. All I can do is reach for it, myself.” - Joyce Maynard From a young age, children are taught various things. However, most of the...

10 Prerequisites for Management I Learned from Bad Bosses and Being a Bad Manager Myself

I have a confession to make - I know almost nothing about people management and motivation. The more I learn about leadership and what motivates people to do their best work, the more I realise how little I know. Although few managers would admit they lack the skills required to do their job, the reality is that most don't have a clue. According...

I Got Promoted To Management. Three Reasons Why That Was A Bad Idea And Doesn’t Work

Your manager is most likely a bad fit for being in a managerial role. I was a bad fit too when I got promoted to management as nobody told me that management is a completely different role that requires a new set of skills. People get promoted to management when they are good at their current jobs. I got promoted to management this way too....

A 6 Step Framework To Take Your Team Culture From Blame to Accountability

Culture plays a key role in determining an organization’s overall performance.  It determines how employees interact with others within and outside the organization and give them a sense of direction. Ironically, executives rarely give culture the attention it deserves, and the consequences are always detrimental. If you fail to shape your...

6 Steps To Create Psychological Safety At Work (So That People Can Do Their Jobs)

People perform best when they feel safe and don’t have to watch over their shoulders. These days, uncertainty looms in almost every element of our lives. Hence, creating a safe workplace for people is in the best interest of any organization.  At work, the greatest threat people perceive these days is harm to their psychological identity - which...

How to Powerfully Step into the New Year 2021

I think it was 1989 when I, for the first time, realized that the 1st of January was a special day. The biggest change for me, one that always took a few weeks to get used to, was to write 1990 instead of 1989 in our school notebooks daily. While the whole world celebrated and wished each other on the 1st of Jan, nothing much else seemed to have...

5 Valuable Life Lessons Struggle and Hardship Teaches You

When faced with difficulties as human beings, our natural reaction is to avoid the situation rather than power through it. Years of evolution have wired our brains to seek the comfort of the familiar and avoid the discomfort that comes with new and challenging experiences.  When you experience fear, whether physical or psychological, the...

7 Key Reasons Why Asking Powerful Questions & Coaching Works Better Than Giving Advice

We’ve all got an irresistible urge to offer advice. It’s a basic human instinct. We often switch to our expert, advice-giver, answer-it, solve-it, fix-it mode. A recent medical research study revealed doctors interrupt their patients with advice within 11 seconds. (Phillips, K.A., Ospina, N.S. & Montori, 2019) But why do we feel compelled to...

9 Steps To Make The Most Out Of Difficult Conversations

“The right word at the right time will unlock the door to treasures - the wrong one will close it forever” - Rasheed Ogunlaru Think about a discussion you have been planning to have with your manager. For example, to ask for a raise. Perhaps as a manager, you may need to terminate an employee or resolve a conflict with a co-worker. These are some...

Want To Improve Performance? Before Giving Feedback, Give People These Four Things

Do you use feedback as a tool to improve performance? If your answer is yes, you are not alone. Most managers see (and use) feedback, most of which is negative or critical, as a tool to improve performance. If you give positive feedback too along with the negative (the sh*t sandwich), we all know that people tend to focus on the negative and...