This is the Leadership Journey series on the Choosing Leadership Podcast.
I believe we all have a lot to learn from each other’s stories – of where we started, where we are now, and our successes and struggles on the way. With this series of interviews, my attempt is to give leaders an opportunity to share their stories and for all of us to learn from their generous sharing.
In the interview, Gilad talks about how he spent 25 years of his life doing M&As and realised he doesn’t want to spend the rest of his career making rich people richer. He now works to solve the biggest challenge humanity faces – climate change – through a rewards based approach. Listen to this episode as we discuss fear, ego, greed, taking responsibility without burden, seeing money as energy, and the importance of our body when it comes to leadership.
The way to scale up climate action is through changing of the economy.
I started many years ago to work on my fears. I didn’t want my fears to control me. And then suddenly I realized that there is another guy that controls my life and that’s the ego. And. I see by the way, ego and fear as a ying-yang
And then once you start to look at your ego, it’s much easier for you to look at the mirror and say, Hey where is my responsibility?
There was less and less resistance from my being for me to ask these questions. It was less and less. I could be more and more honest with myself because that ego, that small devil did not take over and reject those thoughts. And I think that really what helped a lot.
Fear can be my friend, which means I’m not trying to control my fear. I also don’t try to control my ego. When they’re popping out, I look at them, they look at me, and I get the information from them but I’m not trying to suppress them.
I physically felt that money is energy. Because when you’re practising Tai Chi, you’re practising on energies.
I’m more in harmony with myself. Hence I’m not afraid of letting go.
Maybe the best advice I can give is if any person can, from time to time, just stop all the noise. We have so much noise around. It’s coming from all directions. And just try to be with oneself and try to become observant. It doesn’t have to be meditation, people sometimes afraid, but just to breathe, just to turn off everything, for five minutes or for seven minutes, and maybe that’s can be the starting of the process.
Everything is in front of you, but because you are not stopping or you are always in that rush, you’re not seeing it. And sometimes by just stopping pausing, and allowing things to settle down, you will see it for yourself.
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He wanted to speed up. He didn’t realise slowing down was the key.
He told me that he didn’t want to waste a second. If he was not busy, he wasn’t being productive.
When we started coaching, he told me how proud he was of his work ethic, and how “there was no gain without pain.”
When we inquired further, he realised all such statements (in italics above) were coming from his ultra-competitive father and culture where being the number one and squeezing out the most from each second of life was the secret to success.
When we reflected, he realised that all such idioms and proverbs are well-intentioned and meant to inspire people.
However, when we reflected on his life, he also saw the other side of it. These idioms also implied that if you slowed down to relax and enjoy, you are wasting your time and will not get what you want in life.
And that is a life of constant worry, anxiety, and stress. And Raghu’s life was a continuous story of anxiety, stress, busyness, and unable to stop and spend time with his two kids, wife, and ageing parents – people he himself says matter the most.
Suddenly, the old axioms and proverbs didn’t seem as helpful as they appeared. Yet they blind us to see life one way (which has nothing to do with the way things really are).
If you believe that working hard and doing more is the solution to every problem, then you will eventually end up burned out, stressed, and with other related health issues. We often don’t question such beliefs as they have been in use for a long time, and everyone around us also agrees with them.
But, what if, the opposite is true as well?
What if we need to slow down to speed up?
What if we need to relax, rest, and enjoy life to increase our productivity?
Feels counterintuitive (because the hold of the old sayings is too strong on the mind), but as Raghu realised, if you give it a try, magical results become possible.
This has been possible for Raghu in the last 3 months
Every time his mind goes to the thought, “This is hard.”, he immediately replaces it with, “What if it isn’t? What if it is easy?” and then takes action from there. In every instance, he has been able to find a simple solution or way forward in a complicated situation.
He is truly embracing “slow down to speed up” and breaking the illusionary link between being busy and being productive. As a result, he decided to start each day with a 30-min deep conversation with his wife, spend two hours daily with his children after work, and every weekend with his ageing parents. His happiness has never been better, and his body is thanking him for the rest and laughter.
To his surprise, his productivity at work has increased (despite spending less time). He is able to listen better and be present in conversations, and his intuition is super active these days. When he is in meetings or having difficult conversations, he remembers to take a pause and is surprised by how much wisdom his intuition already has. He has achieved a significant breakthrough for his company last month as a result of one such idea.
Again, to his surprise, his teams (he is a CTO) are super-engaged, producing high-quality work, and most importantly, are laughing and having fun at work. People have remarkedon his leadership presence and composure, which are two things he never got positive feedback on before.
As Raghu reflects now, “I thought the answer to everything was doing more to fill the gap. I never thought the answer was slowing down and letting go of what was unnecessary!”
What if the same is true for you?
What are some such idioms and proverbs that are running your life subconsciously?
What if the opposite was true? What could be possible for you?
Try it out in your life for the next week, and see what happens. Reply back with any insights or surprises. I read and respond to every reply.
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‘Habit Stacking’ to Make a New Routine or Ritual Stick
Mornings complete with journaling, meditating, and yoga before breakfast might as well be aspirational, reserved for only the most methodical among us…right?
Well, not if you consider the basic premise of habit stacking, which says that you only need to find one thing you regularly do by default in order to build an entire tower of routine practices.
This is based on the work of BJ Fogg, author of Tiny Habits, and James Clear, author of Atomic Habits.
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This is the Leadership Journey series on the Choosing Leadership Podcast.
I believe we all have a lot to learn from each other’s stories – of where we started, where we are now, and our successes and struggles on the way. With this series of interviews, my attempt is to give leaders an opportunity to share their stories and for all of us to learn from their generous sharing.
In the interview, Anshul shares how his life took a sudden turn from the world of corporates and finance when he listened to a deep inner voice and pursued the unknown path. We talk about how that path led him to many serendipitous moments – including meeting many coaches and mentors who have taught him how to listen to the deep wisdom and intelligence of our intuition and body – and the science behind it.
at some point, you start to pay attention to some of the subtler signs. It’s very hard to describe it, but there is just an internal feeling that feels this is not right.
I know how you just tune in and listen in to yourself and understand what your body’s really telling you.
There are three kinds of lives people lead, which are survival, success and significance.
Ever since I left. I was very clear that I’m just gonna pave my own path. And there is no set path for me in front of me.
This is scientific stuff. 75% of the communication that happens is actually your body trying to tell your mind something. And only 25% is your mind actually trying to tell your body, but we only pay attention to that 25%.
The answers don’t come to your mind because a lot of times we will tell ourselves the stories we want to listen to in our mind.
The best decisions when you are actually listening to yourself come from a place of absolute common stillness.
I’ve always believed in authenticity. One of the defining kinds of quotes, I remember when I was when I just left shell and started this sort of unknown path and life was the privilege of a lifetime is to discover who you truly are.
Safi Bahcall’s Loonshots (2019) tackles a subject that has been at the crux of human progress for the past century – innovation. Right from today’s start-ups, to the mammoth organization of the 1990s, the US military, the numerous inventors of the 20th century, down to military planners of Hitler’s Blitzkrieg strategy, innovation isn’t the outcome of a single idea striking gold, but rather of out-of-the-box organizational thinking and planning.
Bahcall introduces the concept of Loonshots, ideas that seem downright crazy right up to the moment it becomes unthinkable that anyone ever did things differently. He taps into a host of historical examples that prove that there are a thousand ideas that fail before the idea that changes the way the world works.
He proves that experimentation is vital and that progress involves incurring expenses, taking risks and devoting a lot of time. These very factors spell dread for every efficiency-maximizing, risk-averse organization. Bahcall shows that there is a way, nevertheless, for these organizations to balance innovation with the concept of franchising ( by keeping the already successful parts of the organization ticking over), and keep the two separate.
Loonshots is the nursery for the creative. A protected and sheltered space for them to thrive!
Innovation Needs To Be Nurtured
Most organizations are afraid of spending time, money and resources on risky projects. While many start out with path-breaking ideas, they are left with nothing more than pipe dreams, because they are essentially risk-averse at heart. In other words, they fail at nurturing the loonshot nursery.
Loonshots by Safi Bahcall – Book Summary and Review
How can they foster innovation then?
Many consider culture or the informal rules of an organization that define innovation. However, that isn’t correct. For example, Nokia enjoyed undisputed success for three decades from the 1970s to the early 2000s, with the world’s first cellular network, the car phone, the GSM phone and the all-network analogue phone. Its innovations made it one of Europe’s most profitable businesses.
While many attributed this success to its culture, by 2004, nothing in the organization had changed culture-wise. But despite Nokia’s egalitarian ethos, the out-of-the-box thinking and fun culture, when engineers back then came up with the idea of a phone with a state-of-the-art camera infused, internet-ready touchphone, and an Appstore to boot, the leadership shot the idea down. Three years down the line Steve Jobs gave the world the iPhone, and the rest is history.
What had changed then? Well as part and parcel of growth in any organization, Nokia’s structure changed.
At the outset in most organizations, employees hold high stakes in success. Innovation and successful ideas make those employees heroes, whereas failures mean they lose their jobs! In such setups, promotions, big packages, and titles have less meaning. With growth, that changes, and while bonuses become bigger and more attractive, the individual stakes that employees hold in the company, reduce, breeding a conservative mindset. Companies then become franchise operations, focussing on protecting those parts of the organization that are already successful.
Innovation takes a backseat as leaderships start getting more risk-averse to loonshots. However, organizations can enjoy the best of both worlds.
The Unpreparedness Of the US Military In WWII
The Allies’ win over Hitler’s Germany was a historically defining moment. However, if prediction markets would have been there in 1939, the Germans would have still won. The Allies were, in fact, busy with their own ‘secret war’ as Winston Churchill named it. The race to develop more effective weapons.
While the Americans did, in fact, have the necessary naval and aerial means to win, they simply weren’t aware that they did. They weren’t at having breakthroughs while the Axis was busy strengthening new generations of tactics, subs, and planes.
Consider radar for example. Two American radio scientists, Hoyt Taylor and Leo Young, 1922, discovered that as a ship passes between a radio receiver and a transmitter, the strength of the radio signal doubles, enabling one to see that an enemy ship is on the move if they keep a watch on the strength of the receiver signal – a discovery that could potentially revolutionize naval warfare tactics. Unfortunately, the US Navy did nothing with the information that Young and Taylor gave them.
Young, eight years later, discovered that the same effect was seen while transmitting radio signals upwards into the sky. If the signal hit passing planes, it doubled when it returned, even up to an altitude of about 8000 feet. When Young asked the US Military for a grant of $500 to continue research on a prototype for an early warning system, it was again denied, because military planners opined that if a project doesn’t yield results within 2-3 years at least, it wasn’t worth it.
However, they did agree later on, but they were too late. While Young’s loonshot idea was under testing in 1941, 353 Japanese bomber planes attacked the Pearl Harbour Naval base, costing the US Military 2403 servicemen, a dozen battleships and hundreds of planes.
It was a shocking lesson about the costs of not pursuing innovation.
Vannevar Bush’s Innovative Military Planning
The reason the military planners couldn’t devote resources to Young’s radar was that they were producing more quantities of their tried-and-tested guns, bayonets and other infantry tools, or, conventional weaponry. They were, essentially, running a classic franchise organization, convinced that yesterday’s weapons would win tomorrow’s war.
Vannevar Bush has seen this very attitude at the US Navy during WWI. He believed that a civilian-run military research department, with free rein to explore and innovate, would help change the war. He is able to get exactly what he wanted after he met with President Roosevelt – The Office for Scientific Research and Development or OSRD. Vannevar understood that while he couldn’t change the culture, which was conservative, he could change its structure. Having the OSRD as a separate department would allow the Generals to continue with their strategies of war while letting the OSRD plan loonshots.
The OSRD went on to commission 19 industrial labs and 32 educational institutions for research by the end of 1940. The OSRD also got on board Alfred Lee Loomis, an eccentric investment banker who also did technological research. Loomis had gotten wind of Germany’s worrying war tactics from scientists – including Albert Einstein – who had been exiled from Europe. The moment he got a call from Bush, he dropped everything at hand and rounded up a team of physicists and engineers. The team developed a powerful radar using a microwave that could produce a wavelength that could detect objects and produce images from things as small as a submarine periscope.
Till the invention of that radar in 1943, America had lost almost 514,000 cargoes of supplies per month that were ferried across the Atlantic. These were vulnerable as German subs kept picking them off, causing the Allies worry.
The invention of the microwave radar reduced that number considerably, and as the German Admiral, Karl Dönitz admitted, Germany had “lost the Battle of the Atlantic.”
Loonshots In Business
The neglect of innovation and focus on franchise organization was turned on its heel by Vannevar Bush’s loonshots. However, loonshots can be vital in business too.
In 1907, JP Morgan bought AT&T (American Telephone and Telegraph Company). While AT&T had a glorious past being the direct descendant of the company that first gave the world the telephone, it had an uncertain future. Thousands of competitors were eating into its margins after their original patent for the telephone expired.
Morgan brought Theodore Vail, a boardroom pioneer, in to change the fate of the company. Vail had made big commitments to turn things around and pronounced that Americans would soon be able to make calls from anywhere to anywhere in the country. However, there was one big obstacle. The signal of long-distance calls would simply fade as they travelled down a line. It looked like Vail’s promises were going to soon fail.
At that time, quantum mechanics was still in its infancy as the electron had just been discovered. Vail then decided to establish a ‘fundamental research department’, and hired Frank Jewitt, an MIT physicist to head it.
It took 8 years for success, but AT&T did a public demonstration of a call from its headquarters in New York to San Francisco. The next 50 years gave Vail’s efforts a slew of successful breakthroughs such as solar cells, the transistor, The UNIX operating system as well as the C programming language. The AT&T researchers collected 8 Nobel Prizes along the way, making AT&T one of the most profitable companies!
The amazing part of this story is that during WWI Jewitt met Bush, and left a lasting impression. When Bush started the OSRD, Jewitt was one of his first and most indispensable recruits.
Bush and Vail’s ideas of balancing franchise and innovation are blueprints for many organizations even today.
The Bush-Vail Rules
Innovators are often stereotyped as loners with brilliant minds and visions of making their dreams real. However, every innovator needs champions to help carry out their ideas. These loonshot ideas need to take root and thrive. And to do that one can use the Bush-Vail rules – a few basic principles, as guides.
Rue 1: Those responsible for the early-stage ideas and high risks (the artists) should be protected from those who manage the already successful working of an organization (the soldiers). Loonshot ideas, in their nascent stages, aren’t always recognised as they aren’t often presented as obvious successful ideas. The soldiers – like the military planners – look for ready-to-roll projects and products, often ignoring these camouflaged loonshots.
For example, a prototype of Star Wars, The Adventures of Luke Starkiller, was passed on by a film studio. Star Wars went on to become one of the most successful movie franchises.
Rule 2: Soldiers are, however, as important as the artists. Apple’s Steve Jobs learnt this the hard way. While he nicknamed those working on the Mac as ‘pirates, he called the team working on the Apple II Home computer the ‘regular Navy’, as they were handling a lesser glamorous product. As tension between these 2 teams rose, both the products suffered, costing Jobs his job.
When Jobs returned to Apple 12 years later, he changed his strategy. He started supporting both the artists and the soldiers of the company. His approach gave Apple Jony Ive, the man behind the iPhone, and Tom Cook, the architect of Apple’s financial comeback!
Rule 3: Be the intermediary between the artists and the soldiers, and never micromanage the loonshots. Vail and Bush, both would keep away from the technicalities of any projects pursued by their departments. Instead, they focused on managing the weakest link in their breakthrough – the transition from creation to users.
When the OSRD developed the aircraft radar, the pilots ignored it as they found the radar boxes too complicated to use in the middle of a war. When Bush got the feedback, he immediately called for a redesign that gave way to a simpler display easy enough for pilots to use.
Changing Business Environment And Product-Driven Innovation
Changing business environments can often land product-driven innovative loonshots in trouble. At the same time, strategy is also an important factor that affects loonshot success.
Pan Am Airlines, founded by JT Trippe in 1920, started out as a taxi service, flying wealthy New Yorkers to Long Island. While it was a popular route, the repurposed WWI planes that Trippe used could seat only one passenger. As a solution, Trippe imported French engines and moved the fuel tanks outside the fuselage to add another seat to ferry couples – a tactic that he repeated over and over again.
By the 60s, Pan Am became the largest airline in the world, launching the Jet Age and the beginning of the cheap mass aviation era. Pan Am pioneered using the latest products, especially new types of aircraft engines.in 1965, Pan Am gave the world its first Boeing 747 fleet.
However, in 1965, when the US government deregulated the airline industry, the rates of everything from seats to cocktails served (which were once controlled by central authorities) were now set by the market. All of a sudden, there were competitors offering much more. While Pan Am had the best, no one wanted to fly in them. Pan Am went bust in 1991.
The business opportunities created by the deregulation gave birth to new strategies employed by other airlines. For example, American Airlines concentrated on strategic innovation rather than glam products. They introduced the two-tier pay system after the deregulation. The employees who were hired before 1978 were allowed to retain their salaries, whereas, those hired after fell into the lower ‘B-scale’ pay structure.
The amount they saved with this strategy allowed them to expand the company, buy new planes to make way for more jobs, and hence, keep unions placated. They leveraged their benefits of being a big company and closed gaps on start-ups with smaller overheads too.
The Risks Of Overweening Leadership
Another factor that can endanger the success of loonshots is leadership that refuses to take a backseat, and favour their loonshots over everything else. Such reliance on leaders is called the Moses Trap.
Polaroid established in 1937 was one of the companies that saw a series of advances in the field of photography. Edwin Land, after giving the world the sepia and black-and-white prints, instant colour printing, automatic exposure, and the SX-70 all-in-one foldable camera and sonar autofocus, enjoyed success for about 30 years. In 1977, Polaroid released the Polavision camera – a technical masterpiece that could produce high-detailed, 3-minute films in just 90 seconds, with beautifully rendered photos.
Polaroid started mass producing this crowning glory. Unfortunately, however, despite the technical genius of its make, it was silenced in the market. Why?
Firstly, the camera was expensive. As compared to the 2018 dollar, it cost $2500. Its single-use cassette films were priced at $30, proving Super 8 film and regular videotapes a much cheaper option. To add salt to the Polavision wounds, digital cameras hit the markets shortly after the Polavision launch.
According to a recently declassified US government document, Land, surprisingly knew the benefits of digital photography, and had persuaded President Nixon to use it for military purposes, as early as 1971! Why then did it take Polaroid a decade after Canon, Sony and Nikon to launch its first digital camera?
Well, that’s because Land never believed in cameras. He loved the film and pretty much flouted all the Bush-Vail rules! He literally kept the keys to the research labs and because soldiers didn’t mean much to him, never allowed an environment of encouraging the best ideas to thrive! His decisions practically overrode all team leaders’ decisions, causing Polavision to spectacularly fail!
Scientific Revolution – The Ultimate Loonshot
The rapid development of the West can be attributed to the biggest loonshot of all times – the Scientific Revolution. Just as loonshots work on a micro-organizational level, their effects can be seen on a macro level too.
Let’s go back to the Star Wars story to understand the context. How did ‘Sith’, ‘Lightsabre’, and ‘Jedi’ become household names, when there was a possibility that the franchise would never see the light of day?
The answer is simple. The scriptwriters kept going door-to-door until one opened. As long as there is a door to knock on, every loonshot idea has a chance. And this is why the context outside an organization is important.
The world is governed by universal laws which today, can be studied through experimentation and empirical research. Earlier, religious authorities and rulers defined what is ‘truth’. The change surrounding that happened when it was proved that the Earth and the other planets revolved around the sun. This kickstart to the scientific revolution can be attributed to 16th-century Danish astronomer Tycho Brahe and his assistant Johannes Kepler, and the text of his 1609 book ‘New Astronomy’.
Around half a century before, though, the Chinese scholar Shen Kuo had reached the same conclusion. However, China declined the theory, while the West made discovery after discovery.
How does context fit in here?
Both, Shen and Tycho, approached the ruling authorities for funds to support their research. Shen was, however, approaching an all-powerful ruler of an empire, whereas Tycho lived in a continent divided into smaller states, all competing with each other. When Shen’s ideas were rejected, they were quashed for good. On the other hand, Tycho simply had to knock on another door – King Rudolf II of Prague – to accept his loony ideas.
Thus, just as the internal environment is important to protect loonshots, the macro environment is as vital to ensure loonshots are nurtured.
Conclusion
Loonshots are ideas that seem too wild to work, but are those ideas that change the world. Such ideas have the ability to turn around the fates of nations and can show organizations success beyond the wildest dreams.
However, when organizations are risk-averse, they often miss out on game-changing loonshots because they focus on safer, already successful ideas and work to protect them. In order to thrive, loonshots need innovation and leadership that creates an environment to protect the creative, give equal importance to soldiers and trust the creatives and soldiers to steer towards success without meddling.
Women have made tremendous progress, especially career-wise. Where once women world-over were considered the inferior gender, many women have made their mark in the corporate world. However, despite many successes, women still face numerous challenges. They are often held to different standards, while men in the same positions are rewarded for being assertive and taking risks. Women on the other hand are often left with supporting roles – roles that are associated with gender-biased qualities – than leadership roles.
How Women Rise (2018), by Sally Helgesen and Marshall Goldsmith, calls out the many bad habits women have that hinder their progress in the corporate world. She points out unconscious learned behaviours that hold women back. She also shows how women can rise from their positions and pursue that coveted leadership position in any career.
The Struggle To Claim One’s Own Accomplishments
Sally Helgesen, with the aim of finding out what behaviours successful professional women saw in their younger counterparts, started interviewing a number of women successful in their respective careers. She learned from these interviews that most younger women struggled with the word ‘I’- a reluctance to take credit for personal achievements.
She learned that many younger female employees in law, accounting, and consulting were consistent, conscientious and had the ability to deliver high-standard work. They worked harder than their male counterparts. Yet, the problem was in drawing attention to their success, and their discomfort with taking credit for their work.
For instance, many would prefer to attribute success to everyone in their team, rather than acknowledge their own hard work to senior colleagues. This problem, Helgesen found, was evident in practically every industry at every level.
Politeness aside, being modest can be harmful to one’s career. In fact, both Hegelsen and Goldsmith have found that men tend to distrust women who downplay their success, viewing them as inauthentic.
Women in management roles with the tendency to be self-deprecating can also risk downplaying the achievements of their team. Any manager that fails to take credit on behalf of the team also fails to acknowledge their hard work, leading to resentment and demoralization among team members.
The Disease To Please
The ‘disease to please’ is a common affliction. While men are not taught to put others before themselves, the need to be thoughtful and pleasant, and to please everyone around is a behaviour that is associated with women.
How Women Rise (2018) by Sally Helgesen and Marshall Goldsmith – Book Summary and Review
Unfortunately, this conditioning begins in childhood. Girls, at a very young age, are praised when they defer to others. They are rewarded when they are obedient, agreeable and helpful. This expectation is carried out even in workplaces. The biggest example of this is that women are predominantly offered to assist roles in the entry and mid-levels. These roles are made with the idea to help others fulfil their needs. Assertiveness as quality isn’t appreciated in women.
Though being pleasing is a positive quality, it holds women back from achieving success.
This indoctrination of the ‘disease to please, makes women unconsciously fear letting others down. For example, it is often seen that women find it difficult to refuse certain jobs, roles, or tasks, even when they might not be beneficial. The ‘need to please’ attitude robs women of their ability to assert authority, making it tough, especially for women in leadership roles, where asserting authority is often a measure of performance.
Women, in order to be able to climb the corporate ladder of success, and hold successful leadership roles, have to be cured of the disease. They simply need to be more direct and decisive.
The Pitfalls Of Excessive Expertise
Women often feel the need to go above and beyond to be taken seriously in their professions, especially if they are in a male-dominated industry. They often feel the pressure of proving competence in a traditionally male-oriented role.
What unfortunately happens, is that such women end up putting in more work hours, or displaying excessive expertise, just to prove that they are as good as the boys in the team! Many women end up internalizing this attitude. For example, a software development women professional confessed that when she landed her first position, previous sexist comments influenced her to focus deeply on details. She worked hard to outperform others and prove that she deserved the position. She became the team’s most reliable hard-grafter.
However, as her career progressed, she realised that her need to perfect details in her assignments, wasn’t as valuable a skill as being able to nurture and forge valuable relationships with clients, especially when one is eyeing a leadership position.
Women need to focus on the roles that they aspire to rather than the ones they are currently in. Achieving perfection in just one role makes an individual indispensable. There are high chances that a manager could make an effort to keep an indispensable individual in that particular role, endangering one’s chances of a promotion.
The Tendency To Minimize Oneself
A few years ago, while attending a board meeting of a national women’s group, the author noticed that the men already seated in the room made no effort to make place for the newcomers. As the newcomers kept looking for places to sit, the women in the room moved around and shifted to make more places, and take up less space around the table.
Why did the women, as opposed to the men, try to make space for others?
This tendency of women comes down to the fact that women, unconsciously, have a tendency to minimize themselves in professional environments. They tend to make themselves physically smaller by pressing their arms closer to their bodies, crossing legs, or even keeping belongings closer. Men, on the other hand, spread as far as they can, with arms placed over the adjacent seats, spread out legs and scattered belongings.
This tendency to minimize is evident verbally as well. A Harvard Business School study shows that women are more inclined to use phrases of uncertainty such as, ‘It wouldn’t be correct, but…’ etc. These physical and verbal minimizing behaviours tend to hold women back.
Studies have shown that by drawing limbs inwards or physically shrinking oneself, one’s ability to undermine authority diminishes and is a sign of submissive behaviour, similar to how dogs tuck-in their tails in the presence of another bigger dog.
Additionally, these minimizing behaviours are perceived as signs of a lack of commitment by those in positions of power. Unconsciously, women end up projecting uncommitted, timid images of themselves at work.
How Ruminating Leads To Inaction And Depression
Women also have a classic tendency to ruminate. They regret mistakes and tend to mull over outcomes. They dwell on past events and ponder over how they could have done things differently.
While both, men and women can fixate on negative events, men are better able to move past them. Men deal with such thoughts by usually blaming external factors for perceived failures or by excusing themselves of the responsibility. They direct their regret outward, often expressing it in anger – an emotion they are most comfortable expressing. Women, on the other hand, direct regret inward and blame themselves for mistakes, in the form of rumination.
Excessive rumination has devastating consequences and is known to be detrimental to work. Rumination, if chronic, can lead to depression. Furthermore, it thwarts one’s ability to take action for whatever is causing one to ruminate. It depletes one’s mental energy level, leading to an inability to find solutions to problems.
When it comes to excessive rumination, ‘analysis leads to paralysis’, and women need to learn to let go of the past.
The Need To Be Perfect, Always!
Julie Johnson, an executive professional coach, notices that most of her clients struggle to overcome perfectionism. While striving for perfection is a positive attribute, obsessing over it isn’t. Why? Perfection is a utopian unrealistic goal. When those who strive for it fail to achieve perfection, it can lead to stress, a feeling of disappointment in oneself and eventually, depression.
Johnson also found that perfection is a problem that more commonly is a female issue. Women, from the time they are children, are expected to fit within societal gender norms. In most societies around the world, women are made to believe that they need to be perfect if they have to be of any value. If we think back to how children a rewarded, girls are praised when they are obedient, whereas boys are applauded for their free and daring behaviour. Even the concept of a ‘naughty boy’ is seen as endearing and charming. Girls, on the other hand, get penalised for being naughty.
Girls are taught and are expected to do everything ‘by the book’, avoid making mistakes, and never be aggressive or act out. Unfortunately, this indoctrination of the need to strive for perfection gets deep-rooted within the female at a very young age. As adults, this expectation is seen even in the workplace.
For instance, according to data analysed by executive coach Carlos Marin, male executives tend to get rewarded for behaviour that displays their willingness to take risks, whereas women executives get rewarded for accuracy and precision.
Such stereotypical expectation from women in the workplace keeps them from making even the smallest of mistakes or taking risks. And unfortunately, to get to the top of the corporate ladder, risks are necessary, inevitable even!
Sadly, women need to leave behind the need for perfection, or else they will build their own glass ceilings, in a bid to strive for it.
Conclusion
If women have to rise in the corporate world and make their mark at the top of the ladder, they need to shake off stereotypes that unconsciously shape their behaviours. They need to be able to openly speak their mind and claim their accomplishments proudly.
They need to eradicate the ‘disease to please’, and at the same time be wary of showing excessive expertise. This will make them indispensable and they could get passed over for promotions.
Women also need to stop physically and verbally minimising themselves and avoid ruminating over mistakes and past events. Finally, women should avoid striving for perfection always. They need to be realistic and take risks where needed.
This is the Leadership Journey series on the Choosing Leadership Podcast.
I believe we all have a lot to learn from each other’s stories – of where we started, where we are now, and our successes and struggles on the way. With this series of interviews, my attempt is to give leaders an opportunity to share their stories and for all of us to learn from their generous sharing.
In the interview, Laimonas shares how he is building his 10th company, and how being bullied at school gave him the drive to succeed and prove others wrong. He also talks about family and the importance of placing people first, and how business is only a reflection of the energy of its people. He also shares how he has learned to hire people smarter than himself and not try to do everything by himself – which was limiting his growth at one point.
While you’re actually failing you’re learning a lot. That’s what created me as an entrepreneur,
I was bullied at school and that made me a bit angry with the world. So I have to go and prove things.
I really want to show that it’s possible to seek success while you’re smiling while you’re good to people while you are helping. And don’t be that douchebag businessman who is mean and really controlling things.
I want to prove the other way of doing business. That it’s fun. It’s pleasant and it’s doable
Business is just a reflection of people and the energy people create.
When I started my business, I tried to do everything myself. Like I did marketing, I did sales. I did a one-man show, but that limited my organization from growing.
when you go to do business, you expect stressful situations. You expect things to change super fast. So if you expect that, so why stress then? Why would you stress? This is the normal life of the startup things change so fast. So just don’t stress about it.
a lot of times people sometimes think that I’m, too relaxed too optimistic, but it’s just me being myself
if you want to outshine in this world, be yourself.
focus on building something meaningful provide results for yourself, and your team and keep building,
A self-motivated, aggressive approach toward learning enables one to efficiently and quickly, master difficult skills. Such learning is called ultralearning. Ordinary people who are able to master skills at extraordinary speed are ultralearners. While their achievements and feats seem incomprehensible and intimidating at first, the strategies and techniques that enable these people to achieve them can be mastered by anyone with the determination to do so.
Scott H. Young analyses these techniques and strategies in his Ultralearning (2019), and shows how they can be implemented. He jots down the key principles that enable one to start one’s ultralearning project and see the results.
Personal Fulfilment And Professional Advantage
Ultralearner Benny Lewis, is a polyglot who has the ability to learn a new language in an average of 3 months. His self-directed learning skills enable him to master a new skill in a short timeframe with a strategic and aggressive approach to learning.
That said, ultralearning projects are often challenging and time-consuming. For instance, Eric Barone, an IT graduate working as a theatre usher, decided to start his own computer game project. While traditionally, it takes huge budgets, and a team of great professionals to make a successful computer game, Barone took 5 years to refine his game mechanics through rigorous trial and error.
Ultralearning (2019) by Scott H Young – Book Summary and Review
In due course, Barone taught himself music composition, story writing, pixel art and sound design. After completion, his game, Stardew Valley, sold over three million copies in 2016, the year of its release, and put Barone on the Forbes’ ’30 under 30’ list.
While not everyone can land oneself on the Forbes lists, one can surely bring ‘unrealistic’ goals within one’s reach. Ultralearning is a path toward personal fulfilment and can help hone one’s professional edge, especially in a time when professional competitiveness is the need of the hour.
People need to adapt, upskill, and retrain in order to keep themselves in the competitive market. Today, medium-skilled jobs have the threat of automation looming over them, and hybridized skill sets have become more important than ever. Roles such as librarian/data analyst, accountant/Mandarin speaker, or architect/textile designer, are dotting the professional landscape.
Ultralearners have the ability to diversify their skill sets without taking the time off their current job pursuits. How do ultralearners then, manage it all?
MetaLearning
Meta learning refers to the process of learning how to learn. It firstly involves establishing how the information in one’s chosen field of learning is structured, rather than starting to absorb information at random.
For instance, while learning how to write Mandarin Chinese, one has to pay attention to how the characters are organized by radicals – visual markers that show the relationship between the characters. Thus one would ideally begin with organizing principles such as radicals, rather than starting by memorizing the characters individually.
Metalearning, secondly involves looking at the bigger picture and then using that to devise an optimum learning strategy. Understanding the bigger picture is rather easier said than done, and it takes years for many to be able to see it. There are, however, some metalearning strategies that can be used as shortcuts.
The first strategy involves creating a metalearning map that breaks down the learning into 3 categories, namely,
Concepts – things that need to be understood,
Facts – things that need memorization, and
Procedures – things that need to be done.
Different projects use one, more than one or all three categories. Projects such as learning a new programming language have a mixture of these three, whereas, learning a tennis serve involves focusing on the procedure. One has to focus the energies on the most heavily-weighted category that will facilitate perfection.
The second strategy is to identify the challenges in the learning process and then brainstorm techniques for overcoming those challenges. For example, if one requires a lot of memorizing facts, one can use spaced-repetition software that produces randomized memory tests and help optimize memorization.
The third strategy is to establish how one will learn. The best way is to use benchmarking, identifying people who have learnt the same skill before or looking for institutions that offer accreditation in the chosen study. Once identified, one can replicate their methods, and further identify tools, texts, syllabi, or online course texts that are required to learn.
Investing about 10% of one’s total learning time in metalearning is found to bring success. Metalearning offers a roadmap for an ultralearning project. One can then work on focused ultralearning.
Strategizing For Focus And Defending Against Distractions
Our life today is full of distractions. Right from the ping of a WhatsApp message, a like notification on Facebook, to binge-watching that Netflix series, the temptation to get swayed is tremendous. There are, however, some simple strategies that can help one avoid distractions and strengthen one’s power of focus.
The first challenge to focussing is getting focused in the first place! To get focused in the first place, one can use a simple timer/alarm. One can trick their own mind by setting, say, a three-minute timer, telling oneself to focus till the timer goes off. Chances are, that once the timer goes off, the momentum needed to focus is already acquired.
Further, one can use the Pomodoro technique to build on this strategy. The technique involves setting a timer for 20 minutes and working for those 20 minutes without stopping. Then after a five-minute break, starting to work for another 20 minutes.
The second challenge, once focus is found, is to be able to sustain it. External interruptions are like concentration suckers. In order to avoid them, one can control the work environment. For example, turning off the WIFI, or placing one’s phone in aeroplane mode. These strategies help in getting into an ‘autopilot’ mode of working.
However, if one isn’t fully engaged with the task at hand, one is less like to be able to retain new material. Here, interleaving, or deliberately alternating between modes of learning and material can be used. This involves tackling the task at hand in regularly-spaced short sessions. For example, if one needs to devote 10 hours a week to learning Mandarin Chinese, one can devote five 2-hour sessions a day rather than trying to do 10 hours a day in one shot. Additionally, one can switch between learning vocabulary or grammar, that is to focus on a different skill set/aspect of learning the language in each session.
While finding focus, mental arousal – one’s level of alertness and energy – plays an important role. High mental arousal helps in achieving narrow and intense focus which is great for tasks that are repetitive such as practising musical scales. On the other hand, low arousal creates a more relaxed and wide-ranged focus that works best for forming connections and lateral thinking. Such focus is best for more creative tasks.
One has to learn to hone one’s focus and be able to match one’s mental arousal to the tasks at hand for optimal ultralearning.
Smooth Upskilling
In the process of learning, sometimes, one experiences a failure to transfer, or, the inability to transfer what is learnt into actuality. For example, a person who has learnt the French language finds it difficult to actually converse while on a holiday in France. Similarly, it is seen that more often than not, formal education fails to optimize transfer.
Formal education sets an indirect path between one’s target environment – where the learned concepts and skills are applied – and the learning context. That said, when one rote learns the vocabulary of a language, transferring it into conversation (such as, asking Parisian directions in French) is completely different.
Ultralearners understand how to keep the path between the target environment and learning direct. Thus they acquire a quality called directness and practice it.
Just doing something, is the most direct way to learn it. It works for languages and coding too. In order to learn a language or learn to code, one has to speak it or write it, respectively. This manner of learning, by doing it is called project-based learning. Project-based learning doesn’t need any form of transfer, as it places the learning directly in one’s target environment.
Immersive learning, one of the most extreme yet effective types of project-based learning, requires total immersion in one’s target environment. For instance, a person who spends 3 months in France to learn the language employs immersive learning. However, not everyone can dedicate time for immersive learning. Moreover, not all types of learning can use the immersive learning approach. Imagine pilots using the immersive learning approach on the first day of their training! That’s why they train on flight simulators.
The next type of learning, the flight simulator method, uses the concept of flight simulator, that is, replicates the pressure and conditions of the target environment. For example, not everyone can spend 3 months in France to just learn a language, so many opt for a tutor from France who teaches the language online.
Thus, using the above techniques, one can upskill their learning, by creating a direct path from their learning to the target environment.
Drilling
Once a path is established, one needs to drill down to perfect one’s technique. Drilling, is a honing technique that is effectively applied by ultralearners such as piano prodigies, elite athletes, etc, to perfect their skills.
Ideally, one starts with direct practice and then moves on to the drilling technique for the best results. For example, if a person is writing a code, one uses direct practice to identify the areas in learning that one wishes to drill. This direct-then-drill approach can continually be applied to hone a skill.
A rate-determining step in chemistry refers to the process that takes part in the chain reaction. In ultralearning, however, it refers to the step that unlocks the next level of knowledge. For instance, a person who has sound knowledge of accounting theory, but doesn’t have the skill in Excel to put them in practice, would apply drilling to learning Excel – the rate-determining step.
The design of one’s drilling depends on the area of learning that one wishes to apply the drilling technique to. One type of design is time-slicing – isolating one step from a more involved process, and then repeating that step until it is perfected. For example, one can drill their drive shot, if one wishes to perfect the golf game.
Another type of design is to separate one’s desired skills into cognitive components, and then drill each of them separately. Thus, while learning a language, one could drill vocabulary, grammar, pronunciation, or spelling separately.
It’s often difficult to drill while pursuing creative skills, or complex projects. Here one can try the third design, the copycat method, wherein one emulates someone’s tried and tested work, that one admires. For instance, if one is honing art skills, one could choose a painting that one admires and try to copy it as close as one can.
Retrieval
What is the point of all the aforementioned techniques if one isn’t able to recall or retrieve what is learnt quickly and efficiently?
Ultralearners mostly use two methods to improve their retrieval skills – reviewing, going over the material studied again, and recalling, recalling concepts and facts from memory.
According to a 2011 Purdue University study, recalling is more effective for long-term retention. However, most learners choose the reviewing strategy, due to the concept of the judgement of learning.
When one is able to understand something without difficulty, one judges that the concept is learned. Additionally, when one reads over something that is already learned, it creates the impression that the new information is grasped. Passive review strategies confirm the perception that learning is taking place successfully.
Perception, however, isn’t everything. When one struggles to recall any concept in the short term, one tends to remember the concept in the long term. This is known as desirable difficulty. The difficulty to recall a concept is desirable, and maximizes one’s chances of learned retention, proving the efficacy of recall.
There are a few methods to make learning more recall-focused.
One method is free to recall, wherein one tries to recall and write down all that one can remember, with as much detail as possible, after a study session.
The second method is to write questions, instead of making notes. For example, instead of writing, ‘The WWII started in 1939’, write, ‘When did the WWII start?’ Questions force recall better than notes.
The third concrete method involves setting a task that tests everything that is learned. This method helps to recall specific concepts and skills in a targeted manner.
Eliciting Feedback
In ultralearning, feedback is a very important component. One has to be able to get a progress report of how their learning is actually improving skills. Additionally, it is equally important to be able to differentiate between different types and levels of feedback, and how to use strategies to acquire feedback.
While all feedback is useful, not all are equal. Hence feedback needs to be divided into 3 categories – outcome feedback, informational feedback, and corrective feedback.
Outcome Feedback – It is the most basic form of feedback that helps determine whether one has achieved the desired outcome or not. Applause after a speech is an example of outcome feedback. While such feedback is encouraging, no information can be derived from it.
Informational Feedback – As the name suggests, informational feedback gives information. It is useful for highlighting mistakes and isolating problems. For example, if some people in the audience walk out in the middle of one’s speech, it is informational feedback that the speech isn’t engaging enough.
Corrective Feedback – This type of feedback is the best type because, in addition to notifying one of the problems, it tells how one can fix it. For instance, a professional speechwriter in the audience is able to give details to the person giving the speech as to what were the positives, what went wrong, and how to fix it.
Besides understanding types of feedback, one has to also ensure that one is receiving enough feedback. Failure for feedback is a strategy that helps in understanding if one is getting enough feedback. essentially, if one is not pushing oneself to the point of failure, one stops getting corrective or informational feedback. Pushing oneself to the limit generates helpful feedback, and acting on that feedback, in turn, helps one push oneself to the limits.
Meta-feedback is another strategy that helps understand whether one’s learning method is helpful or not. This is done by testing one’s rate of learning. For example, timing how long it takes to learn and write one code.
Eliciting corrective and informational feedback is vital to adjust learning methods and improve one’s performance.
Strategic Memorization Sessions
Nigel Richards won the World French Scrabble Championships in the year 2016. He was able to commit 386,000, and Scrabble approved French words to memory, despite not speaking the language.
While one’s project might not need such a level of ultralearning and memorization, ultralearning does involve memorizing facts, procedures, formulae, etc. How does one make information ‘stick’ to memory?
One of the most effective strategies includes settling down on one memorization strategy and applying it at regular, closely spaced intervals throughout the project. It is vital that one uses a memorization system that is both suited to the type of project and easy to integrate.
Memorizing everything in one shot and cramming results in short-term results only. For memorization sessions to be successful, one has to space them out, ideally, a few days per week.
For memorizing simple concepts and facts, one can use the Spaced Repetition System. Flash cards that randomly test ones knowledge of chunks of information are useful. For more complex concepts, the focus should lie on regular repetition of key processes, and to recall information here, one can switch the flashcards to a refresher project – by putting skills into regular practice – or, by overlearning – pushing oneself beyond one’s limits. According to an Ohio Wesleyan University, 1991 study, pushing oneself beyond one’s skill level not only challenges one’s abilities, it also helps sharpen one’s lower-level skills.
For projects that are procedural in nature, simply doing, or practising regularly helps in retention.
Cultivating Intuitive Brilliance
Richard Feynman, the Physicist, was known for his flashes of ideas and uncanny intuition. However, what others saw as mysterious intuition, was actually a result of his deep understanding of physics, which enabled Feynman to intuit patterns and unexpected connections.
Feynman’s ability to get answers to solutions out of thin air is known as intuitive expertise. Developing intuitive expertise takes time and patience. However, there are a few strategies that can be employed to speed up the rate of acquiring it.
One has to start at the basics. Feynman, for example, would frustrate his students by bombarding them with ‘stupid questions’ about basic concepts. Feynman understood that people can progress to complex concepts even if they only have a basic knowledge of foundational concepts. That said, it is also impossible to achieve intuitive expertise without having sound and thorough knowledge of foundational concepts.
When learning is challenging, one can get a deeper grasp of the subject. Embracing the struggle that challenges provide, by resisting shortcuts, and choosing the more involving route in learning, can help one develop a deeper understanding. For example, a deep study of the strategies in the chess game help with a deeper understanding than simply learning a few classic moves does.
Things are bound to get challenging at some point. However, it is important to not give up. In such times, one can implement a struggle timer – forcing oneself to try and solve the obstacle for at least ten minutes, before looking for an easier way out. Deepening one’s understanding of the core concepts in the chosen field of study, by proving those concepts oneself, helps in getting a thorough understanding of the underlying patterns.
Simply accepting the work of experts in the field leads to a shallow understanding of concepts. Working through basic concepts oneself is the path to intuitive expertise.
Strategic Experimentation
Vincent van Gogh was known in art school as quite ‘unremarkable’. He was an art school dropout. What drove him to create the masterpieces such as The Starry Night and Sunflowers? Van Gogh was relentless when it came to his practice. He would tirelessly try different techniques and styles till he mastered them. He then experimented with those till he found his own style.
In ultralearning, the secret ingredient is experimentation. It can make an accomplished practitioner an innovator. Experimentation is, however, overwhelming at the outset. To start off, one can try the ‘copy and create’ technique. It involves emulating an expert’s work, and using it as a stepping stone for one’s own unique ideas. For example, if one wants to learn to cook Chinese, one can choose a few classic dishes and follow the recipes exactly. Once the recipes are perfected, one can add their own improvisations to it.
Another method to boost experimentation is to limit it. While it might sound contradictory, setting limits can actually blossom creativity, as limitations can push one to try something new. For example, a painter can decide to paint only in shades of one colour.
The final strategy is to hybridize two techniques, skills, or materials, to get different results. For example, Scott Adams was an engineer who like to doodle, before he created the comic Dilbert. While he wasn’t exceeding great at either, he hybridized those skills to come up with a completely different and successful talent.
Conclusion
Ultralearning is a self-directed and aggressive learning style that can help in mastering any skills in a short span of time. Using strategies such as meta-learning, optimizing focus, directness, drilling, retrieval and feedback, one can start their own ultralearning project, and benefit from a hybridized skill set.
This is the Leadership Journey series on the Choosing Leadership Podcast.
I believe we all have a lot to learn from each other’s stories – of where we started, where we are now, and our successes and struggles on the way. With this series of interviews, my attempt is to give leaders an opportunity to share their stories and for all of us to learn from their generous sharing.
Henny is someone who doesn’t follow the normal route in life. She lost both her parents at an early age and learnt quickly that life is too short to not make your own decisions. She wants to be happy and also create an environment where her teams can also learn, grow, and be happy at work. She acknowledges that she can be too hard on herself, and tries to let things go and find a balance.
Life is too short to make decisions that you don’t want to have.
I also feel like no matter what happens, if I die out, I will be happy because I have the feeling that I created a positive impact on the world.
If you look at leaders there they’re mostly like very angry or tough people. Not exactly, always vulnerable. I do believe that people that are able to show vulnerability make sense because we’re all human beings. And if, and then we connect with each other when we’re trying to be vulnerable, when we try to open up with each other, we get more connected.
Our emotions and our inclusion play a bigger role in our decision-making than our rational minds.
it is better to also take the time for yourself. So when you’re working you’re doing the right things, because if you’re very tired, you make bad decisions and that’s not what you want to do as a leader.
almost all choices are reversible. So it is worse to not choose.
Always be learning. Always develop yourself. Always you can learn something from someone. Everybody can teach you something, be open to it, keep developing yourself, and they will also keep developing everything around you.
Welcome to the Deploy Yourself Newsletter, where I share what impactful leadership looks like to show your own power. I also share the most insightful lessons and stories I encountered in the last two weeks. You can also read this issue online.
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The only two things you need to DO WELL as a leader
There are only two things you need to DO WELL as a leader – to achieve all your dreams and ambitions. It is not that there are not other skills or things you need to do, it is just that everything else will fall into place if you do these two things well. They are:
Knowing what you want – for yourself, your team, and your organisation, and
Asking for what you want – without apology, without making it personal, and without making it OK for the other person to say NO
Most people do not stop and ask themselves, “What do I really want?”
And it is not easy. It requires courage to peel layers and layers of wishes, expectations and hopes to get to what you really want.
But there is no leadership possible unless you are clear on what you want – for yourself, for your team, and for the organisation.
It is often not easy to sit in solitude and tap deep into your heart and gut – which is where all desire comes from – and which is where all leadership starts.
Most people never ask for what really want, precisely and clearly, because it is too painful to receive a NO.
They see a rejection as a personal failure rather than just the ask being rejected.
They make a NO personal and uncomfortable. A NO means nothing unless what you make it mean.
Just like you can say YES and NO to what you want, others can say YES and NO as they see fit.
You can ask for anything you want from whoever you want as long as you make it OK for the other person to say NO.
Once you know what you want, the only thing standing in the way is asking for what you want from those who can give it to you.
It could mean asking for money and funds to start your company.
It could mean asking for time to complete what you started.
It could mean asking others to join you as you create the future of your dreams.
It could mean asking someone to resign if they are not helping you get where you want to go.
Or, if the worst comes to pass, it could mean asking for help when you have no idea what to do – from your peers, from your family, from your coaches, from your mentors, or from a mental health professional.
Remember, the last thing that you can always ask for is HELP – to help you move towards what you really want.
And yes, all of this requires COURAGE. But then, what doesn’t?
Reply back with what you really want and what is stopping you from asking for it. You are safe with me to share whatever you want. I read and respond to every reply. And I applaud your courage.
In this podcast episode, Scott and Dave examine McKinsey’s research on what the top CEOs do (and avoid) when building great teams. Key highlights below
Top leaders staff for both aptitude and attitude. They have an eye to both the short and long term.
Top leaders stay connected with people throughout the organization, but also keep some distance. There’s a key distinction between being friendly and making friends.
The most successful CEOs have a mindset of “first team” and expect leaders in the organization to prioritize serving the whole team/organization over any functional area.
Just 2 Minutes of Walking Is Surprisingly Good for You
Walking, especially in nature, can have tremendous benefits for our body and mind. Any form of light exercise during the day is a key practice for leaders to build. It improves their decision-making, emotional intelligence, and creativity.
The benefits of physical activity are never all or nothing, Dr. Patel said, but instead exist on a continuum. “It’s a gradual effect of more activity, better health,” he said. “Each incremental step, each incremental stand or brisk walk appears to have a benefit.”
A Humble Inquiry on the Balance between long-term and short-term for leaders
In this episode, Leslie joins me as my co-host to humbly inquire into how to prioritise the long-term and short-term as a leader. How to find the critical balance in business as leaders – where we are responsible for short-term metrics – and yet also for the long-term growth and sustainability of our business?
“it’s very important to measure numbers in the short term, but not to see those numbers going up and down as a direct measure of the performance of your people, of your teams. Because then there is a lot of hidden elements.”
“It requires courage and trust in self to know what is right for you.”
“There are many places that you can find help if you go looking for it.”
“it shouldn’t become a match like somebody needs to win and somebody needs to lose. It needs to become a partnership. It needs to become a team effort.”
“Courage is not about giving up at the first disappointment, but courage is about trusting that this is important and then moving forward, no matter how slow or fast the progress is.”
That’s it for now. If you have any questions or feedback, or if you are new and want to introduce yourself, hit reply. I read and respond to every reply. All the best,
Sumit
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This is the Humble Inquiries series. In this episode, Leslie joins me as my co-host to humbly inquire into Focus for leaders and teams. How to stay focused and get quality work done in the age of distraction? How to train your mind to get into a state of flow without getting interrupted every now and then?
In each episode of Humble Inquiries, we are deliberately going to put ourselves in the uncomfortable space of not knowing the answer and humbly inquiring about these challenges – with the aim to provoke new thoughts, actions, and practices – to help us better serve our coaching clients, and also to help the leader in you navigate the biggest challenges – at life and at work.
Show Notes
Leslie – “coming back to the why and why am I doing this is really what has helped me generate more focus. “
Sumit – “before we talk about focus, it’s very important to identify what to focus on and not just focus for the sake of focus, but focus always for the sake of producing a result.”
Sumit – “we have to choose because if you try to focus on everything in a way you’re not focused on anything, “
Sumit – “focus is also very closely tied to being committed, being responsible for what big responsibility that you have taken on.”
Leslie – “not only does productivity go down because you’re flipping back and forth and then you’re slower. Your risk of errors is greater. “
Sumit – “So if you’re driving, you can keep the whole route in your mind, but you have to focus on the road in front of you. So focusing on the present moment or the today is very important. “
Leslie – “You think you need to do more, but that’s not necessarily how it pays off.”
Sumit – “Does the phone owns you or do you own the phone? So again, as you said just because you have a phone doesn’t mean that you have to answer every call or you don’t mean that you have to keep it on at all times.”
Sumit – “It’s just not healthy to hear a ping sound every five seconds or every five minutes, even, it’s just, or brains or bodies are not built for that. “
Sumit – ” It’s not just about productivity. It’s also about health and wellbeing, which is so much more important. “
Sumit – “You’re choosing at any moment. If you’re in a meeting and your phone rings, you’re choosing to answer that phone, right? If you’re in a meeting and your boss suddenly calls you, you’re choosing to answer your boss or choosing not to, but all of these are choices and we get away. We make it easier psychologically by using these like defence mechanisms or escapist language. Like I did not have a choice or I have been trying, but I have not been able to.”
Leslie – “There are those moments of when and what suits, your kind of biological clock. So paying attention to it is really important. And, my way of doing that is noticing it and capturing it and journaling it and then adjusting my schedule so that I can take advantage of when suits me the best.”
Sumit – “Multitasking is a myth. “
Sumit – “the human brain is just not capable of doing two things at a time. You can do as many things as you want, but in any given moment, you can only focus on one thing.”
Leslie – “you can quickly see how slow you are when you’re switching back and forth, as opposed to accomplishing one and then accomplishing the other task.”
Sumit – “focus requires energy.”
Leslie – “Just like your windows browsers, and you have too many tabs open, I have too many tabs open in my brain and I need to shut them down so that I can focus.”
Sumit – ” we can hold only five to seven things in our short-term memory at a time.”
Sumit – “If you take a bike and load it with so much stuff that it can’t move, that’s not the problem of the bike.”
Leslie – ” I’ve now gone back to, headphones free and just enjoy the sight and sounds of nature.”
Sumit – “there is also that notion associated that if I take time for myself then to feel guilty about that, that’s wrong or that’s selfish. But again, coming back to the metaphor of you always putting your own oxygen mask first, and in fact, that is necessary.”
As quoted by Edgar Schein in his book Humble Inquiry, an humble inquiry is recognizing that insights most often come from conversations and relationships in which we have learned to listen to each other and have learned to respond appropriately, to make joint sense out of our shared context, rather than arguing with each other into submission.
This is the Humble Inquiries series. In this episode, Leslie joins me as my co-host to humbly inquire into how to prioritise the long-term and short-term as a leader. How to find the critical balance in business as leaders – where we are responsible for short-term metrics – and yet also for the long-term growth and sustainability of our business?
In each episode of Humble Inquiries, we are deliberately going to put ourselves in the uncomfortable space of not knowing the answer and humbly inquiring about these challenges – with the aim to provoke new thoughts, actions, and practices – to help us better serve our coaching clients, and also to help the leader in you navigate the biggest challenges – at life and at work.
Show Notes
Sumit – “we all agree on this is a big problem but we still can’t agree on what to do because the structures of the world we live in is still derived or run by a lot of short-term thinking”
Leslie – ” it’s really, what is that most important thing of where we’re going? So that then as a leader, you can help decide for your team, how. Support the organization in getting there. I think the first is to have courage and ask specific questions to get that direction. “
Sumit – ” if you realize something is missing from a long-term point of view, The way to do it is not to do it alone, but to build a consensus so that the team or the company can do it as a group, as a unit.”
Leslie – “Having the courage to ask, and then when you get the answer of the direction, ensuring that’s something that you feel passionate about and is the right thing to do, and you want to do it so that you can convey that to your team.”
Leslie – “To step into that space and maybe not know how we’re gonna get there. But this is where we know we should be going.”
Sumit – “it shouldn’t become a match like somebody needs to win and somebody needs to lose. It needs to become a partnership. It needs to become a team effort.”
Sumit – “it’s very important to measure numbers in the short term, but not to see those numbers going up and down as a direct measure of the performance of your people, of your teams. Because then there is a lot of hidden elements.”
Sumit – “What if you like hit your numbers, but destroy your reputation in the market, in the industry. So there’s a lot of things which you cannot measure like trust. What if you like, you certainly go through a downturn. And to save cost in the short term you do a round of layoffs, but it destroys the culture and the trust in the organization.”
Sumit – “If leaders who want to focus on the short term will not get followers, they will automatically have to change.”
Leslie – “It requires courage and trust in self to know what is right for you.”
Sumit – “Nothing stops you from sending an email to the CEO or sending an email to, to your high people, higher up in your hierarchy or to or to find them somewhere and to engage them in a conversation.”
Sumit – “There are many places that you can find help if you go looking for it.”
Sumit – “That’s the definition of courage, right? Courage is not about giving up at the first disappointment, but courage is about trusting that this is important and then moving forward, no matter how slow or fast the progress is.”
Asquoted by Edgar Schein in his book Humble Inquiry, an humble inquiry is recognizing that insights most often come from conversations and relationships in which we have learned to listen to each other and have learned to respond appropriately, to make joint sense out of our shared context, rather than arguing with each other into submission.
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