This is the Can’t Stay Silent series on the Choosing Leadership Podcast.

For most of my life, I have kept my voice buried beneath layers of fear and insecurity. In each episode of this series, I will find the strength to express myself from the bottom of my heart.

These short episodes will be filled with honest reflections, simple stories and metaphors, and some gentle provocations – all to help you Deploy Yourself in your own life.

Together, we’ll discover how we can create a world where all of us can show up as leaders. So, if you are ready to allow the leader in you to bravely listen to my call of leadership, join me on Can’t Stay Silent.

You can find more about me & the Deploy Yourself School of Leadership

Show Notes

  • Can we get on the same side and talk about the challenge together, rather than sitting on opposite sides of their table and holding, holding onto our positions? 
  • And I think what leads us to hold onto our positions is our fear of failure – that we do not want to face that we can fail, and that fear of failure leads and keeps us stuck in these endless conversations.
  • Simply because of the fact that we are unable to deal with that we might fail, it leads to a mess on the surface. 
  • There is nothing wrong with being scared of losing a position or disappointing those who support you but it keeps you away from playing fully on the outside. It keeps you away from having the real conversation on challenging yourself and others as well and talking about real stuff rather than getting lost in intellectual conversations.
  • If you practice any martial art you will know that, uh, hesitation will get you killed. if you practice any sports. Hesitation will make you lose. , but this is what we are doing. our fear of failure and inability to deal with the mess inside is suffocating us from the inside, but also keeping us stuck on the outside.
  • There’s nothing wrong with being scared and terrified, but to hide it, to not be okay with it is taking us nowhere.
  • I must say I was terrified and I still am, but I’m not afraid of acknowledging it. I’m not going to let it stop me. I’m not going to let it hold me in a position and not see things from the other side as well. And I’m, I might fail as an entrepreneur. I might fail as a professional, I might fail in my career as a CEO, I might fail as a coach, as a father, as a husband, as a parent, as a friend, I might fail. But so what? I mean there is, there’s a world beyond I, right?
  • I might fail, but what is better is playing a half-life is that acceptable? Certainly to me, it is not
  • We would all be crawling if children would behave as adults behave. These days. If children would be afraid of falling, we would all be crawling
  • This is how you get to any success, not by trying to be safe and hesitating, but by being fully willing to fail. The way you get to success is not by trying to be safe and hesitating but by being fully willing to fail, fully willing to fail is a precondition for your full commitment to whatever that you’re trying to achieve.
  • Otherwise, you are always keeping one foot behind.  and you cannot take a leap of faith. You cannot take a jump if your one foot is still on the ground.