Welcome to the Deploy Yourself Newsletter, where I share what impactful leadership looks like to show your own power. I also share the most insightful lessons and stories I encountered in the last two weeks. You can also read this issue online.
The trap of always chasing “more” & the power of “enough”
Chasing for more can be a double-edged sword. While it can be a great motivator and help you reach your goals, it can also lead to negative consequences. Here are some of the downsides of always chasing for more:
- Stress and Anxiety: It can cause you to become overwhelmed and can lead to burnout.
- Unhealthy Habits: Chasing for more can lead to unhealthy habits such as overworking, neglecting your health, and neglecting your relationships.
- Unsustainable Goals: Chasing for more can lead to setting unrealistic and unsustainable goals. This can lead to disappointment and frustration when you are unable to reach them.
- Unhappiness: Chasing for more can lead to an unbalanced life and can make it difficult to find happiness and contentment.
In today’s world, it’s easy to get caught up in the idea of having more. We’re constantly bombarded with messages that tell us that more is better, and that we should always strive for more.
But, have you created your own definition of enough? Because otherwise, it might never be….
Have you identified what success and purpose look like to you – balancing the natural desire for more with a deep appreciation for what we already have?
What happens when we live in the context of “enough” instead of always wanting “more”?
- When we have enough, we can finally take a step back and appreciate all that we have. We can enjoy the moments that we have and stop worrying about what we don’t have.
- When we have enough, we can also start to think about how we can use our resources to help others. We can give back to our communities and make a difference in the lives of those around us.
- When we have enough, we can make our lives more meaningful. We can focus on learning new skills and use our resources to pursue our dreams and make a difference. We can finally start to live a life of purpose.
- When we have enough, we can finally start to live a life of balance. We can focus on our physical, mental, and emotional health. We can take the time to relax and enjoy the simple pleasures in life. We can make time for our families and friends and build meaningful relationships.
- When we have enough, we can finally start to live a life of joy & contentment. We can appreciate the small moments and be thankful for all that we have.
So, the next time you find yourself wanting more, take a step back, stop comparing yourself to others, develop a gratitude practice, and appreciate the beauty of enough.
You may just find that it is the most beautiful thing of all.
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Fascinating Articles & Stories
“Leadership is the combination of determination and openness to listen to others” – Radmila Blazheska
I interviewed Radmila Blazheska on the Choosing Leadership podcast. We talked about:
- I also show that I’m vulnerable as well. I do mistakes and I honour them, and I also am open to criticism whether it’s negative or positive criticism. I’m open to it.
- I am looking at everyone on a level that we are all people, whether we are leaders, or whether we are all working together for someone’s objective.
- If there is friction. You need to work on that section. Never let it go. Never let it just under the carpet because at some point in your life or your working career will come back and bite you.
- I guess the combination of my determination and openness to listen to other people in their opinion, I think that’s the combination that makes me a good leader.
- And I think one of the key things is that also, even if you are in a boardroom and you’re talking to your board and you know that you want to say something, but you are fearing to say that, say it’s better to be said and done rather than keep it to yourself.
Listen to the entire episode.
“Possessions and things don’t amend happiness, but people around us do” – Kevin O’Loughlin
I interviewed Kevin O’Loughlin on the Choosing Leadership podcast. We talk about:
- Our key strategy has been getting a customer, look after everything to do with it, including the supply of people, if they’re required and then keeping the customer for as long as you possibly can.
- We very rarely lose a customer.
- I’ve learned that my wife and kids are far more important than any of those things.
- Every business is about people and you have to get yourself in a place that you’re in a good place personally. And then you can grow a business
- The number of times that the directors and the company had to have their salaries delayed for the following couple of years, it was very difficult, but the learning, it was, we learned. How to survive. We learned how to negotiate. We didn’t lose any people during that period. And, we even had some of the internal staff saying, listen, I’ve got a credit card. If we need to use it to buy things, I had unbelievable support from everybody.
- One of the reasons our accounts were so bad was I wanted to look after the people. So at no point was I gonna let good people go that I cared about, we would carry everyone.
- There are lots in companies that is left unsaid and left undone. And for me, it’s, if you’re not enjoying leadership, there’s something wrong. Go find it, figure it out, have the conversation and deal with things as they come up.
Listen to the entire episode.
Curated resources for your leadership
Here are my best finds from all over the internet for your leadership. Make yourself tea/coffee as you learn.
- The Path of Humble Leadership, a Coaching for Leaders podcast episode with Edgar Schein and Peter Schein
- Knowledge Is Not Understanding – an article on More Than That
- 11 Promises from a Manager
That’s it for now. If you have any questions or feedback, or if you are new and want to introduce yourself, hit reply. I read and respond to every reply. All the best,
P.S. – I am looking to interview more inspirational leaders on my podcast. If you know anyone I should interview, reply back with their name.