Welcome to the Deploy Yourself Newsletter. Every two weeks I share what impactful leadership looks like to show your own power. I also share the most insightful lessons and stories I encountered in the last two weeks. You can also read this issue online.
Are You Playing Too Small?
You might know that it is dangerous to play big and take risks. Today I want to say that it is even more dangerous to play small.
Ask yourself – why would you aim small when you can achieve something bigger? It just doesn’t make sense.
We think you are scared of failure, but many times we are scared of our own greatness and success. We have allowed others to decide our limits too low in an illusion of safety.
Abraham Maslow said, “We are generally afraid to become that which we can glimpse in our most perfect moments… We enjoy and even thrill to the godlike possibilities we see in ourselves… And yet we simultaneously shiver with weakness, awe, and fear before these very same possibilities.”
What we are really scared of is that if we played big, we would have to accept responsibility. If we really played big, then we can’t hide behind our comfortable fears. When we dream and play big, then we are exposed to the unknown. Then we are out there swimming for ourselves. And that can be scary.
But once we are out there, it can also be tremendously liberating. It can lift all the heaviness and stress that comes from not living the life we know we can. Once we are out there, we can feel complete aliveness and joy – even in the face of challenges.
I invite you to swing for the fences. I invite you to believe that you are worthy of playing big. Give yourself the permission to play and LIVE big.
Join me in this journey of playing BIG, swinging for the fences, and having fun along the way. Reply right now with your BIG DREAM which has been “on hold”… I read and respond to every reply.
Articles and Stories Which Have Fascinated Me
What Efficient Mentorship Looks Like
In the face of a pandemic with no end in sight, we must preserve our fuel supplies while we mentor others. Mentoring should not burn and drain energy. It can be fuel-efficient and effortless. Look for ways to communicate expectations, schedule effectively, and consolidate mentees.
A good place to start is clarifying the baseline expectations. To start, mentors must realize their own preferences. Consider your expectation of mentees’ responsibilities, then draft a document of standards and save it for future use.
During your relationship, you can revisit the document together and optimize further. Provide context, informing the mentee that these standards will provide organization and leadership skills, and keep you, the mentor, focused on their larger needs.
Reasons to step into a leadership role
Here are 5 good reasons to seek a leadership role:
- Desire to have more impact
- An opportunity to build different skills
- Interest in watching others grow
- Desire to improve the environment
- Act as a Role Model
Reasons not to seek a leadership role
- For the money
- For the power
- For fame
From an article by Pat Kua on LeadDev
A Few Resources For You
Two weeks ago I thanked all of you by sharing 3 reports which I often share with my coachees. Thank you for all those who have written back to me. I am glad you have found these helpful. Today I am sharing one more report, titled Compassionate Conflicts – The Complete Guide To Harnessing The Energy In Conflicts Without Destroying Relationships.
If you are a new subscriber and want access to the reports I shared the last time, just reply back.
P.S. – If you know where you are headed, or if you have a dream which has been “on hold”, and if you want to discover how powerful you are, I invite you to my coaching programs. I am opening the last coaching group (4-6 people only) of 2021 in Nov. It’s a €4900 investment for one year – in your life and growth. Reply if keen.
That’s it for now. If you have any questions or feedback, or just want to introduce yourself, hit reply. I read and respond to every reply. All the best,