November 2021

  • Issue #38.5, 2 Nov 2021 – Sumit interviews Antonio Potenza & Lisa May

    Dear reader,

    The What

    As I shared briefly in last week’s newsletter, I will be interviewing leaders and sharing their leadership journeys in a mini-newsletter. As a subscriber to this (Deploy Yourself) newsletter, you will get the best-curated insights from these interviews in a mini-email like this one. I will send it in the gap week between two regular newsletters. You can also read this mini-issue online.

    The Why

    We all have a lot to learn from the stories of our leaders – of how they came to be where they are today. These are stories peers and friends don’t usually know, and my attempt is to give you an opportunity to learn from those who have already tasted success and made an impact.

    The Who(s)

    Antonio Potenza – “Money has the power to be a force for good!”

    Antonio Potenza is the CEO & Founder of Proodos Capital and the COO and Co-Founder of Fund4Impact. In this wide-ranging interview, Antonio talks about how he moved from creating shareholder value to creating stakeholder value. He shares how he shifted his perspective about money, took a sabbatical, went back to University for an MBA, and came back with a mission to give money a more positive connotation. In his own words, “Money has the power to be a force for good. Money is not bad per se, it’s what we do with it that makes all the difference.”

    He was also generous to share a personal story about her mother and her struggles to raise two children in a foreign land. He credits her for having the most influence on his leadership. He further adds, “My late father, whom I never met because he died in a car accident the day I was born, is another source of inspiration. I carry his name and what I know about him through the stories that I am told.”

    Antonio defines leadership as empowering others to grow, progress and allowing them to take on responsibility and accountability. Read the full interview here.

    Lisa May – “There’s a different way to lead and there’s a different way to serve!”

    Lisa May is the founder of Fülle – Holistic Leadership Development and her mission is to help busy executives maximize their fulfilment without sacrificing their success – or anything else that matters to them. In the interview, she talks about the moment when she was very successful by all standards and yet felt really empty inside.

    It was then she started going deep to understand what that really meant. She spent 5 to 10 years studying different philosophies, modalities and methodologies to put the pieces together. She realised that “I had become my achievements, my identity, and a lot of my worth and value as a human had been trained to be connected to milestones outcomes, performance. And that’s simply not true.”

    She now looks at leadership differently. She believes leaders can get out of their own way to live, lead, and serve better. And they can do that not out of pain and suffering and out of pushing and driving through, but out of a place of deep balance and inspiration. How lovely is that?

    She considers her dad the greatest influence in her life. She learned stamina and perseverance and true commitment to work from him. She adds, “But what I also saw in him is that he was able to be truly present with our family and with me at those pivotal points in my life where he could have been too busy and just pushing, pushing, pushing to keep going with the achievements. But he didn’t, he would stop and he would be present.”

    Read the full interview with Lisa here.

    How can you contribute?

    Each one of us is on a leadership journey. Our journeys might not look alike. They might resemble more of a roller-coaster ride than a race track, and that is what makes each one of us special and unique in our own ways. I am deeply touched when someone takes the time to share their story with me. The leaders I work with are also left inspired when we listen to each other’s leadership journeys.

    If you think that your leadership journey is worth sharing and would be valuable to others, reach out and allow me the privilege to interview you. If you would like to recommend someone else who I should interview, feel free to write to me about them. You can send me a message on LinkedIn or send me an email at sumit@deployyourself.com.

    That’s all for this week! If you have any questions, don’t hesitate. Just hit reply.

    See you next week with the regular newsletter.

    With gratitude,

    Sumit

  • The Wisdom of Insecurity by Alan Watts – 5 Lessons

    The Wisdom of Insecurity penned by Alan Watts in 1951 brings forth the irony of modern life – that the pursuit of material happiness only leads to anxiety. Human beings are forgetting the purpose and the true pleasure of living in the present by dwelling in the mistakes of the past and the uncertainty of the future.

    As the age of consumerism reaches its peak, we are further away from the simple pleasures of life. We are lacking purpose and our lives aren’t fulfilling anymore. The book discusses 5 ways to live a better and more meaningful life.

    1. Religion Helps People Feel Fulfillment

    Religion, or rather the moral beliefs and practices that come with it, can have a grounding effect. The reassurance of an afterlife that guides a person to lead a virtuous life gives a sense of fulfilment. As the influence of organized religion declines, and as people move further away from religion, there is a gaping void left.

    This widening gap leads people to look for instant gratification from addictive behaviours like drugs and alcohol to make up for the lack of purpose or meaning in life. 

    2. Consumerism Is Just a Dangling Carrot

    With consumerism, the chase for gratification never ends. We keep looking for happiness in materialistic gains which never leads to fulfilment. While almost everyone in the Westernized society is constantly fighting to achieve their materialistic goals, very few understand that these are mere empty pursuits, only adding to the vicious cycle of wanting more.

    Consumerism is the proverbial dangling carrot that only adds to one’s anxieties, leaving them with a feeling of constant discontent. 

    3. Pain and Pleasure are Two Sides of the Same Coin

    Everyone wants to lead a happy and fulfilled life. At the same time, no one wants to experience tribulations. They spend their lives worrying about how to make it all easy and make the pain go away.

    It is essential to realize that pain and pleasure are two sides of the same coin. Without experiencing the painful moments of life and without facing tribulations, one cannot truly savour the satisfaction of happy times. Similarly, experiencing happiness gives us the motivation to go through the painful times in life, because we know that there will be joy ahead. 

    We must simply stop looking at pain and pleasure as negative or positive emotions and understand that both are a necessary part of life. We should move towards a perspective where we do not worry about avoiding the pain.

    4. Living In the Present

    We tend to either live in the past or the future, worrying about the things (especially the bad) that happened to us or about the things that we want in the future and how to get them. By doing this, we forget to live in the present. We deny and resist the experiences that we are living in now making it worse for ourselves.

    Our brain is wired to want to react to the emotions that we experience. Therefore dwelling on the pain of the past or worry of the future is natural. However, the trick is to stop acting impulsively in the face of emotions and experience them fully without judgment. That will keep us from worrying about them. At times, accepting the present and moving on is the solution.

    5. Listen To Your Body

    The constant overthinking that our brain does cheats us of other experiences that our body and our subconscious has to offer. A person’s full potential to lead a holistic life is defined by all these experiences and not only one. We have to slow down our constant thought processes.

    We tend to ignore the vital signs our bodies give us. We are often so disturbed and worried about our past and future that our sleeping patterns get affected. This is when our subconscious is working for us. This is the present that we need to pay attention to. We need to get out of our heads and let the natural and subconscious parts of our body (sleep, daydreaming, rest) do their magic.

    Key Message

    Our material pursuits only offer temporary gratification. Chasing after these will only lead us into the vicious cycle of wanting more and bringing us pain. Additionally, it is futile to keep focusing on the pain of the past and the anxiety of the future. We must accept that these insecurities are part of our life and focus on the present. Experiencing them will only enrich our lives. Life is never certain or safe, no matter how much we want it to be. Instead of focussing on that, we should focus on what is in our control and let everything else play out on its own.

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