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How Your Need to Be Useful Is Stalling Your Growth?

Why Your "Competing Commitments" Are Stalling Your Team There is a pattern I observe in founders led companies that is quietly stifling their organizations. It is not a lack of skill, and it is not a lack of vision. It is a conflict of identity. The pattern looks like this: A founder walks into a meeting and casually says, "We should get some...

When Your Superstars Are Tearing Each Other Apart

There's a pattern I see in certain companies that's puzzling at first glance. The CEO is a very nice and kind person. Genuinely kind. The kind of person people respect deeply and stay loyal to for decades. They've built a team of exceptional people around them. Each one of them can be called superstars by any measure. And yet. Those superstars...

The Hidden Reason 90% of Strategies Fail (and the Missing Conversation)

Let’s get real for a second (especially if you have a large team) Every year, organizations spend more than $60 billion on strategic planning and leadership development. Yet McKinsey, Bain, and Harvard Business Review converge on a sobering truth: roughly 70–90% of strategies fail to achieve their intended outcomes. Not because the ideas are...

The Intelligence Trap: Why Your Brain Might Be Blocking Your Breakthrough

You’re smart. Maybe too smart for your own good. You built a company, decoded markets, led people smarter than you, and made your way into rooms you once only dreamed of. You’re used to knowing things - and preparing yourself thoroughly before you enter a room. But when you start chasing the impossible (anything beyond what you currently think is...

Why People Are Not Getting Your Strategy (And How to Fix It)

The three levels of internal communication that turn confusion into alignment A CEO I've been working with recently told me something that I have heard too many times. "I've explained our strategy at least five times this quarter," she said. "Town halls. Leadership meetings. Email updates. But when I ask people what we're doing and why, I get...

SALES – Three Levels of Communicating What You Do

How shifting from "what you do" to "what it does for them" transforms sales, leadership, and trust A CEO I work with runs a successful industrial manufacturing company. His team knows the product inside out. They hit their numbers. But he kept running into the same problem: his salespeople couldn't articulate value in a way that made customers...

The Stone in Your Shoe: Why Commitment Comes Before Everything Else

Let’s talk about that thing that’s been bugging you. That goal that feels perpetually out of reach. We’ve all been there, feeling stuck and spinning our wheels. It’s like having a tiny, sharp stone in your shoe. At first, it’s just a little annoying. You can limp along, telling yourself, "It's not that bad. I'll deal with it later." But with...

Don’t Wait for Inspiration or Motivation. Create It Like Winners Do.

Let me tell you something that'll piss off a lot of people: You don't need to feel anything to do the thing. I know, I know. The self-help industrial complex has sold us this fairy tale that we need to "find our passion" or "wait for the right energy" or "feel confident first" before we take action. Bullshit. The 6 AM Gym Test Here's the simplest...

The Invisible Weight of Success: What Nobody Tells You About Making It

You know what's funny? When I quit my 16 years tech career to start on a totally new journey - to guide and work with the biggest changemakers & leaders on this planet, I thought the hard part was getting there. Landing the big CEO clients. Hitting the numbers and building a reputation. Being known for bringing people together and helping...

The Leadership Loops Nobody Talks About (But Everyone Keeps The Drama Going)

There's a meeting happening right now, in every country, where a leader is saying something they don't mean, making a promise they won't keep, or avoiding a conversation that actually matters. And everyone in the room knows it. Including the leader. But the show (or drama) goes on. The performance continues. The loop keeps looping. Here's what...

You Are Aiming Too Low: The Power of Impossible Goals

How to Make the Future Come to You Instead of Chasing After It In 2020, I was not even confident enough to apply for a job at the companies of the CEOs I coach and support today. Today (since 2023), I coach 8–12 CEOs at a time - each doing a business of $5-$100M annually. My work with them is not about fixing what’s broken. It’s about helping...

Leader Manager Coach: Mastering the 3 States of Being

The Leadership Trinity: The 3 Essential States of Being for any Leader Picture this: You're sitting in your office at 10 pm, staring at a mountain of unfinished tasks while your phone buzzes with urgent messages from three different time zones. Your head of sales is demanding clearer targets, your engineering team needs inspiration for the next...

Stop avoiding being wrong (you are addicted to being right)

In 2000, Blockbuster's leadership team had a meeting that would go down in business history as one of the most expensive examples of righteous stupidity ever. Netflix founders Reed Hastings and Marc Randolph flew to Dallas to pitch a partnership to Blockbuster CEO John Antioco. Netflix was struggling – they were losing money, had only 300,000...

Stop Pleasing People. Start Serving Them (Distinction)

The Leadership Trap: Why Serving Beats Pleasing Every Time How breaking free from this childhood programming of pleasing others can transform your leadership and life Picture this: You're in a meeting, and something isn't right. The project is headed toward disaster, but everyone's nodding along. You know you should speak up, but... what if they...

You Are Going to Talk Yourself Out of It

We all do this - Talk Ourselves Out of Our Commitments And that's exactly what we need to talk about. If you've just had a powerful conversation with me about your future—the one that made your heart race and your mind light up with possibility—I need you to know something important: you're probably going to talk yourself out of it. Not because...

Stop Apologizing for Your Brain: The Neurodivergent Leader’s Secret Edge

You know that moment when someone calls you "too intense" in a meeting? That little sting you feel? That voice whispering you should dial it down, blend in, be more "normal"? Yeah, screw that voice. I've worked with CEOs who've built 8-figure companies while thinking they were fundamentally broken. They spent years trying to shove their...

Why Going All-In Is Your Superpower (And Why “Balance” Doesn’t Exist)

I had two client conversations today that I will not forget for a while. Two clients. Both wildly successful. One's a former pro athlete who's dominated their sport for years and is now contributing to their sport in an even bigger way after retirement. The other's a CEO who's built a company where 4000+ people feel proud to work. And guess what?...

You’re Not Fooling Anyone: How Looking Good Is Bankrupting Your Leadership

Authenticity is aligning who you are with what you think, what you say and what you do Let me tell you about Shweta, a VP at a tech company who was known for her "transparency." She'd stand in front of her team every Monday morning, preaching about open communication and honest feedback. But when her boss questioned her team's missed deadline,...